Have you ever noticed that when a friendship splits, a love ends or a connection of any kind breaks, the “moving on” process becomes easier for us if we are angry?
It’s as if we can find anything to get mad about. Suddenly any word they say, their mere presence in a room, their name being brought into conversation, or even a selfie being posted on social media can take us from zero to pissed in a matter of moments.
Anger is easy. Hating is easy. It means we don’t have to fully own how it is we really actually feel deep down inside. Hurt. Abandoned. Ego bruised. Or maybe we’re just mad at ourselves for still holding love for them. This way of being allows us to stay in a mentality where it’s all them and not us. How could we still have love for someone that broke our hearts?
But that’s the thing though. By us choosing to not love, we are actually doing an even greater disservice to ourselves. Hate is too heavy a burden to carry around. It isn’t fertile ground for acceptance or change, it isn’t a space that fosters growth or evolution.
By us choosing to love people, choosing to love them through the process, through our letting go, is one of the strongest things we can ever do.
Love is light, it flows freely. It creates opportunity for you to move forward without any attachment or baggage. It allows you to celebrate who people were for you, and who they still are for you, because at one moment in time you both were exactly what you needed. They helped shape us into who we are today- and what is there to hate about that?
No matter what people say or do or how badly they may hurt us, it is never too late to forgive and show love for people, even if that means loving from a distance and even if that means no longer having them as part of your life. Love is the gamechanger, it is the driving force that keeps the world together, allow it to lead you in everything that you do.